The Routine of Homemaking
It is a privilege to be in this generation where women are empowered to be in the workforce. While I am all about building successful careers and pursuing passions, I think that women should not neglect the role of being a homemaker. Thus, I continually challenge myself to balance my time between working outside the home and working at home. It's not easy and I struggle, but it's doable. I have been trialing different ways to manage my daily routine, but here are tools and strategies I use that are more effective than others:
1. Morning Pages
The original concept of Morning Pages is to write, first thing in the morning, three pages about anything and everything that crosses your mind. Now, I know what you're thinking... "another task to add to my long list of tasks? Such a waste of time!" I first heard about this from a podcast on creativity but more than being an artistic tool, I find that writing first thing in the morning slows me down, eases my anxieties, making me more focused and more productive the rest of the day. It's like yoga or your daily run. Sometimes, I am able to do my three pages, but I often do 3 minutes instead. That may mean just writing a few sentences or a page. I urge you to try it. Set yourself up to be mentally ready to tackle all the work and homemaking tasks you are about to do for the day.
2. Keep a planner
Use a planner, list all the chores needed to run your home and schedule to do them throughout the week. I aim to accomplish one main chore a day. For example, on Mondays, buy groceries; on Tuesdays, make the meals; on Wednesday, do laundry etc. I also plot out the week's food for breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks. This guides my meal prepping, that way I don't have to think about what food to eat next. Writing out a monthly budget on the planner also helps us allocate our finances, making us wiser with our daily spending.
Having a planner sorts of gives you a visual of your household. Sometimes, it may be a challenge to follow through your list but it helps simplify your day, week and month. It helps visualize your priorities and therefore, increase your success at managing a home.
3. Ask for help
I've always had this picture in my head of being that wife working a full time job, at the same time, doing everything in the house - cooking gourmet style food and keeping a spotless house. When I got married, I quickly realized I am human and my batteries are limited. I would get into superwoman mode and then suddenly my energy goes low. I get so tired and end up not doing anything. My home gets cluttered and we are eating take out. Then, guilt sets in and I feel like a failure. It took me awhile to admit that I have to ask for help, that it’s okay to ask for help. Although, I mainly hold myself accountable for doing household chores, I have accepted that it’s okay to get my husband involved. Luckily, I got married to a guy who silently and readily pitches in and picks up after me, when I don't need it and especially when I need it. Don't be afraid to ask for help, from your husband or your kids. Homemaking really should be a family affair, making it more joyous and enjoyable.
Being a full time working homemaker is demanding but seeing your family living a comfortable life is a priceless reward. Thus, get yourself mentally ready, save your energy by being intentional on planning and following through a schedule and ask for help. How about you, what are your strategies to make homemaking a little less stressful and tedious and more enjoyable?